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The New York Times
I was at the dentist because I had a cracked tooth that I had long put off fixing, partly because my schedule was already brimming over, and mostly because I didn’t really want to have the procedure anyway. After months of stalling, I had finally scheduled the appointment and resolutely blocked out my calendar for the entire afternoon. I was anticipating that afternoon with dread, but I was in for a surprise. Read more.
Against the Sticker Chart (Reached #1 Most Popular)
After working with thousands of families over my years as a family psychologist, I’ve found that one of the most common predicaments parents face is how to get kids to do what they’re asked. And one of the most common questions parents ask is about tools they can use to help them achieve this goal. Read more.
National Public Radio (NPR/KQED)
Stop Wanting Your Kids To Be Happy (Podcast)
Finish this sentence: "I just want my kids to be … " Like millions of other parents, you may well have said, "I just want my kids to be happy." I have said the same myself. But while wanting happiness for our children makes sense, decades of research presents a paradox: Focusing on happiness is not a great way to actually be happy. Listen here.
The Washington Post
When my son turned one, friends gifted him with an illustrated Snoopy the Dog book called “You Can Be Anything.” On page after page, this chirpy book shows Snoopy engaged in a variety of impressive professions: Sports Star, Surgeon, Flying Ace, and so on. The book was big and bright and colorful, and probably intended for an older child since the pages–instead of being thick and sturdy like board books–were made of regular paper. When my son tried to turn these flimsy paper pages with his pudgy little hands, they inevitably ripped. Which delighted him, so he ripped them more. I let him. I even helped him sometimes. Read more.
Whether you're the preferred parent or the rejected one, our expert's five tips can help you get your parent/kid dynamic back on track.
When Jenna Cooper got home from work last August and heard that another mother in her Brooklyn neighborhood called the cops on her nanny, her immediate reaction was fear. “I heard the word ‘police,’ and got really nervous,” Cooper, a lawyer in Brooklyn, tells Yahoo Parenting. “But after my nanny Nicki explained the situation to me, my worry turned to anger and disbelief.” Read more.
KQED Public Radio
About 15 years ago, my husband and I adopted a dog. We soon realized we needed help managing a variety of challenging puppy behaviors, so we signed up for a dog-training class, eager to train our dog and change her problematic habits. To our surprise, the dog-training class was less about training our dog and more about training us. Most importantly, we learned that to change our dog's behavior, we had to change our behavior first. And that is a lesson we can apply to our relationships with people, too. Read more.